In psychology there are five stages of grief: 1. Denial, 2. Anger, 3. Bargaining, 4. Depression & 5. Acceptance. In spiritual work and Past Life Regression Therapy there is a sixth stage, Reconnection.
Contact with loved ones that have passed over is quite common. Visits from the deceased would be even more apparent if people weren’t so afraid, even though they long for contact, and if this phenomena wasn’t so taboo.
Generally, our Western belief system denies the possibility of connecting with the dead so most people miss out on the comfort and reassurance their loved ones are trying to offer.
I have had numerous connections with spirit and will share some of my experiences. Previously, I haven’t spoken much about my contact with those that have passed over because of the way others’ attitudes and beliefs result in my own resistant behaviours, but if you are interested continue reading.
Throughout most of my adult life I have had contact with spirits and during the years I was living in Byron Bay I continued to exercise my connection to spirit by attending a meditation group at nearby Brunswick Heads.
I had returned home one evening and because my housemate was in bed I sat quietly on the sofa with my dog, Bella, enjoying the beauty and peace of my surroundings.
Unexpectedly, I saw the images (projected from the shoulders up only) of my Uncle John and my Grandmother, my mum’s brother and mother, in the corner of the room. I am the youngest grandchild and had a special connection with my Grandmother.
I spent the majority of my 20s and my early 30s working and travelling around Australia and she often wrote me letters, letters that I now treasure.
Anyway, Grandma came straight to me and put her ‘arms’ around my neck and thanked me for visiting her each week at the Yankalilla Nursing Home where she lived out her final months. My Uncle John hovered in front of me, held my hands, and told me he had to go and see his grandchildren.
My time with Grandma in spirit lasted about 15 minutes and it was the most love-filled blessing I had ever experienced up until that point. Sadly, I didn’t share this experience with my mum because I knew her beliefs would block any understanding or comfort she could have received.
I also didn’t want to be ridiculed, nor have my own experiences and beliefs rejected so it was something I only shared with my likeminded and trusted housemate at the time.
My cousins could have also benefited from the knowledge of my experience; however I am sure my Uncle John, their dad, would have tried to make contact himself. Spirits prefer to contact their loved ones directly but sometimes the living are inaccessible due to their own emotional turmoil or belief system.
The deceased do not wish to cause distress when they pay these visits and will immediately withdraw if they have frightened the intended recipient. Years earlier Uncle John had done just this on several occasions. I would catch him out of the corner of my eye and feel quite alarmed. I wanted to feel comfortable with it so I kept asking him to come back.
I had a close bond with both my Uncle and Grandma; my Uncle John took a keen interest in my life, would come to watch me play netball and made me feel like the daughter he never had. He died of cancer at the age of 59. However, my contact with spirit has not been limited to my own family.
Deceased relatives of friends have also contacted me with messages, some I passed on, other times I didn’t want to ambush people out of the blue. Strangers in spirit would appear when I was in the deeply relaxed theta state of consciousness. I would politely ask them to go away so I could sleep.
While the experience with my deceased loved ones was a joyous and peaceful one, for those who are grieving, reconnecting with someone you miss so much can be extremely emotional. You may not experience a current life spiritual encounter with your deceased loved one, but Past Life Regression Therapy enables you to discover loved ones from this life and explore the nature of the relationship you had together in previous lives.
The highly emotional nature of this process is a big part of the value of Past Life Therapy and the reconnection with lost loved ones on a soul level is particularly comforting and healing, helping lessen the intensity of grief.
It doesn’t stop you missing them, but it does make you realise that death is not the final goodbye.