I recently had a client, I will call her Jo, come to see me concerned about several aspects of her life based around relationships. She presented with stress and anxiety and found it difficult to relax. It took several relaxation techniques to enable her to enter an altered state of consciousness for past life memories to begin to flow.
However, when she started to receive impressions from her subconscious her conscious mind would interrupt by wanting to analyse the information immediately as it ‘didn’t make sense’.
Quite often a suppressed memory is so unpleasant or emotionally disturbing that to bring it into the conscious mind creates a complete emotional overflow. The conscious mind defends itself and creates a resistance as a defence mechanism to protect the mind’s ego.
The search for a trauma is the basis for almost all deep psychological therapy, although it is not always easy to find. This is where Regression Therapy provides such therapeutic value; it is an efficient method to locate the trauma.
Jo maintained her commitment to the therapeutic process and instead of analysing the information that was presenting itself, she simply relayed the images and feelings she was receiving.
This shift in focus allowed further information to emerge and soon enough the tears began to flow as the trauma was realised. The core of her existing problems was revealed from an early childhood memory, from this life, where she was deeply traumatised and abused. She detailed the events that had happened at the hand of her father and the neglect that followed from her mother. The two people that were meant to love and protect her unconditionally had failed to do so and this had an understandably detrimental effect on her relationship with herself and the relationships she attracted from others.
It is possible for childhood traumas to be the extension or continuation of patterns that originated in past life experiences, but we didn’t have time to explore this during this session. What we did explore and discuss was how her current childhood experience and relationships with her parents shaped her present life suffering. She felt deeply unloved and deeply unlovable after experiencing failed marriages and other relationships and friendships where she felt betrayed, mistreated, used and abused.
Jo’s experience had made it difficult for her to have the capacity for satisfactory interpersonal relationships. Childhood trauma lends itself to low self-esteem, a lack of confidence, a struggle with maintaining meaningful relationships and a lack of self-worth.
To rebuild these things means acquiring new ways of thinking. This involves a reprogramming of the mind and learning these new internal messages takes time and practice. The task is to develop a sense of personal awareness and a mastery of the mind to avoid recreating the traumatic past, either behaviourally or emotionally.
Healing is always the goal of therapy. To approach the path of recovery is to personally develop and it is important for the client, themselves, to bring about further development through self-knowledge, self-empowerment and self-determination.