I have previously written about how children choose their parents and their parents choose them as part of the pre-birth planning process, but what about adopted children? Do adopted children and their adoptive parents make the same choices? If so, why would a soul, prior to birth, plan to be adopted?
Children who are adopted suffer emotional consequences such as feeling angry towards their birth parents, feeling a lack of self-confidence and a lack of self-worth for being given up along with experiencing identity and belonging issues. So if a soul did choose to be adopted how do these feelings foster a soul’s evolution?
There are several reasons a soul may choose to be adopted. It is possible they know the souls of their adoptive parents, who may not be able to have children in that particular life, and they deeply long to be reunited with them. While the child will still suffer the consequences of being adopted, they will heal quicker as there is a deeper soul connection with the adoptive family. Alternatively, a soul may choose to right a wrong from a previous life where they caused pain and hurt to another and have agreed to experience pain themselves. This is not a form of punishment, but more a balancing of karma.
When a loved one dies we suffer a great loss, but commonly take comfort in the belief that we will be reunited with the souls of our deceased loved ones in the spirit world. However, there is strong evidence of these souls returning to us much sooner, in our current life time in fact! While our passed over loved ones can connect with us through our dreams or through the aid of a medium or psychic, the actuality of reincarnation means that they can also come back to us as a baby born back into the same family. Grandfathers return as grandsons, mothers return as daughters and, incredibly, a child who has died young can return to the same mother. Here is a story of a child reborn to his mother, Kathy.
Kathy was sixteen when she gave birth to James who before he was two years old was diagnosed with a cancerous tumour in his left leg. Naturally, Kathy was devastated. As James’ condition deteriorated he required different treatments, including an IV in his right jugular vein that left a linear scar on James’ neck. He also obtained a tumour behind his left eye leaving him blind in that eye and by this time the doctors could do nothing for him, James died at the age of two.
It has been reported that over one million people worldwide take their own life each year. A desperate act, not a selfish one, that leaves loved ones with so many questions and the difficult task of healing from such a traumatic experience. With unanswered questions, loved ones are left to hope that that person is now at peace. So what happens to the soul of a person who decides to take their own life?
Suicide is not a part of the pre-birth life plan, but there is a possible likelihood of it happening due to the challenges the incarnating soul has agreed to face during that life. Souls who take their own life are greeted by their guides and treated with the greatest of compassion. Their spiritual recovery involves overcoming the shock of ending their life and coming to terms with the pain and suffering they have left behind. With their guides and Spiritual Elders, souls look at the reasons behind the suicide and address the underlying emotions leading to their departure, for they will meet the same lessons in different circumstances when they are ready to reincarnate.
A client, who I will call William, came to me presenting with a deep fear of losing those closest to him. He had experienced this debilitating fear that influenced his close relationships for over fifty years. William had in fact witnessed his younger brother dying and being revived when he was only five so this current life trauma played a part, but what we were to discover played an even bigger part of the mystery surrounding this fear that had been his prison for too long.
The first soul memory William accessed was as a young boy, aged 10, surrounded by bombed buildings and utter devastation, he was in Poland and Nazi Germany had invaded. As a young boy named Rueben he felt abandoned, alone and fearful. Separated from his family, he slept in the ruins of buildings with other children and an older girl, Eva, took care of him.
With overpowering anger and disbelief, Rueben watched people being marched onto trains as the guards laughed, without concern for their fate. In the next scene he saw his mother and ran towards her, but before he could reach her she was led through a door, the door of a gas chamber. He instantly knew he would never see her again. By this stage he had witnessed his father being taken away, his brothers lost, presumably killed by the bombing and now his mother led to her fateful death before he could touch her one last time. He was overwhelmingly devastated.
For a parent to lose a child at any age is excruciatingly painful, but for the loss to occur before that child is born brings about a unique kind of grief and sadness. The parents are left to grieve over their child they were yet to meet, yet to hold in their arms and often left to wonder if they could have done something differently. The experience of a miscarriage can result in a combination of shock, anger, self-blame, guilt and can quickly lead to depression.
Considering we, as immortal souls, agree to a life plan before we reincarnate, why would a soul knowingly place its energy in a foetus that was not going to be born? What was the soul’s purpose of doing so? As is commonly the case, many people have a particular lesson they weren’t able to learn in multiple past lives and therefore seek to resolve it in this lifetime. In the case of miscarriage the lesson to learn could be self-forgiveness, love or acceptance. Miscarriage is a time for grief, but not guilt. It is important to remember that the soul of the mother and the soul of the unborn baby agreed to such circumstances for whatever lesson and reason that may be.
Abortion is different in the way that miscarriage is not a conscious decision (after reincarnating) made by the mother or parents, whereas abortion is. A soul doesn’t actually attach itself to a foetus in the first trimester when abortions are most likely to occur, but it can associate itself energetically and the mother can often sense the spirit of the child. The lessons are often the same as when miscarriage occurs, lessons of love, acceptance, compassion and forgiveness.
Karma is a popular word, but what is it and what does it actually mean? Karma is neither punishment nor reward; it is simply the spiritual principle of cause and effect where an individual’s intentional act (thought, word or deed) influences their own future outcomes, good or bad. What we sow we reap. Now this may sound good in theory, but sometimes karma appears slow to serve. For example, a person may act deceitfully and immorally yet still seem to thrive and succeed while people who are acting out good deeds of kindness and moral behaviour seem to reap very little. How can this be a karmic result, a natural law of justice, for that person’s actions?
We can argue that the seeds of our actions take time to grow, but if people don’t get their rightful retribution, good or bad, it leaves an unresolved contradiction that just doesn’t seem fair. It is sometimes hard to accept that everything is occurring in perfect order and the cosmic events of the universe are greater and more intricate than we can imagine. We carry karmic matter over from our past lives to be resolved in this one for our spiritual growth and we continue to reap what we sow. So while the karma bus may seem to have forgotten somebody or even broken down, rest assured it is on its way, it just may take time or it may have arrived in the most subtle of ways that can’t be seen.