According to beyondblue, it is estimated that 3 million Australians are living with depression or anxiety. This figure is staggering, but what is even more so is the stigma still attached to depression simply because people do not truly understand it. Here is a list of truths about this common illness:
1. Depression is as real as heart disease or a broken leg. It must be treated with due care as the harsh reality is that it can lead to suicide.
2. It is not something you can just ‘snap out of’, just like you can’t snap out of heart disease, diabetes or any other illness. You cannot just think happy thoughts to overcome depression.
3. Suffering from depression is much different than simply feeling sad.
4. Depression not only affects your mood, but also your energy levels, motivation, feelings of self-worth and relationships. It can be an emotional rollercoaster with feelings of irritability, intolerance, stress, guilt, anxiety etc.
5. Depression is not obvious like a broken leg in a cast. Somebody suffering from depression may still be able to function well at work or study and put on a happy face.
6. Although someone with depression may be able to continue functioning at work behind a smile, simple tasks become difficult. Such tasks like getting out of bed, cleaning the house, checking the letterbox etc.
7. Suffering from depression can make you feel very alone despite knowing there are so many others suffering from the same illness. If you know someone suffering from depression offer your support.
8. Depression does not discriminate. It can affect younger people and adults of every age group and gender.
9. There is no shame in having depression or taking anti-depressants.
10. Suffering from depression is not, by any means, a weakness in a person’s character.
I suffered from depression in my twenties and again at around forty, following the birth of my second child. The first time I was prescribed anti-depressants, but due to the side effects and a chance meeting with an amazing woman, I went off the medication and embarked on a life changing, spiritual journey that led to me overcoming personal challenges and hurdles, letting go of people and problems from as early as childhood as well as profound healing from life times of baggage through Past Life Regression Therapy (PLR). It was cleansing and liberating.
PLR helped me along my personal healing journey and gave me the tools to overcome depression as well as life’s challenges and it can for you too. However, if you suffer from acute depression, a serious medical condition known as major depressive disorder, please seek immediate help and support from your GP or services such as beyondblue (Ph: 1300 22 46 36; beyondblue.org.au) or Lifeline (ph: 13 11 44; lifeline.org.au). Remember, it is not a sign of weakness to seek help, quite the opposite in fact.
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Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to recognise and regulate your emotions to relieve stress and overcome challenges. It is also the ability to communicate effectively with others to resolve conflict and to make more informed decisions. We have all had moments where our emotions have caused unhealthy and inappropriate reactions when we have been overwhelmed with stress, hurt or anger and these are lessons to be learnt from, not moments to regret.
Building emotional intelligence starts with self-awareness. When you are aware of how your emotions affect your thoughts, behaviours and relationships you can start to take measures to control your impulsive feelings and reactions to stress and start to navigate the complexities required to manage conflict and maintain healthy relationships with loved ones, in the workplace and within society.
Adapt to taking a moment to think and observe your current emotion before you react. This pause can be the one thing that enables you to think rationally before behaving irrationally. Uncontrollable emotions and behaviours affect your personal and social relationships, leaving you feeling lonely and isolated, and they also affect your mental health. If you do not manage your stress and overpowering emotions you will be more vulnerable to anxiety and depression, have high blood pressure and a low immune system.
When asked what I do, I either get a perplexed expression or a ‘Wow, that’s amazing!’ kind of response. Past Life Regression Therapy is a powerful tool to heal trauma and transform body and mind, but it can be hard for people to understand the process and meaning behind the method. The words ‘Past Life’ can quickly close minds to the possibilities, however you do not have to believe in reincarnation to benefit, you only need a willingness to focus and relax.
Hypnosis is the technique used to achieve access to the subconscious mind where our memories, intuition, wisdom and creativity are stored. This part of the brain functions at a much deeper level than the conscious mind and has no imposed boundaries of time and space. The subconscious remembers everything and can recall anything. It can also promote healing by offering solutions to problems as it transcends wisdom far beyond waking capabilities.
There is no mystery to hypnosis; it is simply a state of focused concentration. When you are deeply relaxed and focused on the task you are not distracted by outside noises or the usual bombardment of thoughts and feelings on your conscious mind. Most of us experience light states of hypnosis every day, when we are lost in a book or a movie or deeply concentrating on something. Hypnosis is not how it is depicted on television, you are in total control the whole time and you will remember the entire experience.
Meditation is the art of energy healing. The more you are able to relax your body and mind through meditation the more likely you are to feel peaceful and present. While meditation fosters better mental and physical health it also opens the gateway to the endless resourcefulness of your subconscious mind. From a place of deep relaxation and focused attention you are opening the channel to receive great wisdom from your higher self.
The most common problem people have when they try to meditate is quietening their mind from the seemingly endless internal chatter. It is not necessary to rid your mind of all thoughts, only to shift your focus. To do this, start by taking a deep breath to ground yourself in your space. Allow your conscious thoughts to enter your mind and gently let them go by bringing your attention to your breathing. Notice the rise and fall of your natural breath and, if necessary, start counting your breath and return to counting every time a random thought enters your mind.
To further enhance that deep place of relaxation consciously relax your muscles, start by stretching the feet and the calf muscles etc., working your way up to your shoulders, neck, jaw and face. As you gradually become deeply relaxed you enter an altered state of consciousness and this opens the gateway to an abyss of personal knowledge, greater personal wisdom and symbolic messages. These messages can offer resolution to any concerns you have and they have the potential to create a pathway to greater life fulfilment. You have the answers. They present themselves while you are in a meditative state, in your dreams or during past life experiences.
Relationship issues are a common thread amongst all of us, which is not surprising as all of our lives are comprised of social and intimate interaction with others. What is also common amongst us is the desire to find love and be loved. The energetic pull between soulmates may be gentle or quite forceful, depending on the situation; however, soulmates are never truly apart from each other. Even if they are miles apart geographically, their hearts and souls are forever bound. Soulmate relationships frequently arise during Past Life Regression Therapy and I wanted to share a couple of more stories with you.
I’ll begin with the story of a client I will call Ava. Ava had trouble making sense of a relationship that wasn’t evolving into something more serious, yet she knew the connection and chemistry she had with this man, who I will call Thomas, was deep and she knew they both loved each other dearly. During a past life regression she discovered that she was once married to Thomas. They lived in America, in Atlanta, during the 19th century and during this time Ava’s life had ended suddenly. It appeared there was unfinished business between them and they were reunited in this life, but Thomas was detached and uncommitted. Once Ava became aware of the deep love that spanned life times with this man and the origin of her feelings for him, she was able to honour herself by making better choices in her current situation. Instead of going on with his lack of commitment, for her own highest good she called an end to their casual fling, choosing self-respect over being only an option for him. Deep down she knew they weren't meant to be together long term in this life and the knowledge they were soulmates and lived a previous life together as man and wife was gratifying enough for her to have the courage and the confidence to move on without him, loving him all the same. She was able to remain friends with this soulmate and moved on with her life with no bitterness and no regret, only love and an inner peace that came from her understanding and acceptance of the relationship. She literally set herself free.
Through his extensive work, Dr Michael Newton has identified three different groups of soulmates. These include ‘Affiliated Souls’, who are generally acquaintances associated with us to teach us a karmic lesson, ‘Companion Soulmates’ who are often our siblings, our children or good friends who are actively taking part in our physical life and ‘Primary Soulmates’ who are most often a deeply bonded partner or lover. Primary soulmates are two people who are connected eternally by their love for one another and come around together, life after life, with lessons for each other that teach personal growth and spiritual evolution.
Destiny dictates when soulmates will meet, but one thing is for sure… we will meet them. What happens after two soulmates meet is no longer fateful; it becomes a matter of choice and one of the most important moments in our lives. Unfortunately, many people don’t recognise this until after the choice has been made. The right choice is an opportunity realised and can bring two hearts and two souls together in a union of profound happiness. However, there are many reasons soulmates may not remain together; the important karmic lessons in their reunion may have been learnt and it’s time to go their own way or their greatest life’s lessons are better learnt on separate paths, however one thing is for sure, without a greater understanding parting from a soulmate can result in long term suffering and heartache.
A client, who I will call Anna, had an ex-boyfriend who she loved more than she had loved anyone else. Anna was very young when they fell in love and after they split up she went on her journey of self-discovery and essentially growing into her own while he moved on, married someone else and had a family of his own. This led to years of loneliness and suffering and many failed relationships, but it also resulted in great personal growth and inner strength along with a determination to create her own happiness and success. Anna’s love for this man and curiosity about the deep connection she felt towards him never disappeared and she came to see me to gain insight into her continual feelings towards him. During a past life regression she discovered they were in fact married in a previous life, blissfully happy with a family of their own. This knowledge of having loved him for many life times gave her the understanding that this life was not the end, regardless of whether they would be together again or not. The belief in this connection enabled her to forge ahead with her own life and not dwell in the past where thoughts of being with him could ignite heartache and pain.