Having a child with a disability is one of the most heartbreaking challenges a parent can face. Parents only ever want their children to be healthy, happy and live a life better than the one they had themselves. When a child is born with, or later develops, a disability it is natural for parents to experience profound anguish and anger at life and the universe. Why would this happen to an innocent child they love so much? The pain can be unbearable, parental relationships come undone due to the stress and they commonly blame themselves or each other for ‘faulty’ genes.
However, ultimately this has nothing to do with genetics. It has everything to do with the life planned of the soul before birth and if a soul planned to experience a life with a disability then they would have coordinated their life blueprints with the souls of their parents to be. In the search for discovering the real meaning of the lives we planned before we were born, what does this experience offer that makes such suffering worthwhile from the perspective of the soul?
From the perspective of the personality, this experience may appear to be a huge burden, but on a soul level the parents know their chosen life lessons are entrenched in this difficult challenge. Despite the pain and broken hearts that come with it, their lessons involve patience, empathy, compassion, truthful communication and determination. A forced responsibility that requires building a sense of self, the need for a never give up attitude and a more focused life that leads to greater meaning and satisfaction. It reconfirms the parent’s inner strength and gives them a greater understanding of what is worth worrying about and what is not.
Physical accidents appear to be random events, varying from unfortunate to tragic. However, the very paradoxical concept of a ‘planned accident’ is the result of the pre-birth planning process. Life, sometimes, just does not seem to be fair, but many accidents and other fateful and significant life moments are planned; souls choose extraordinary challenges for their own spiritual awakening and a deeper knowing of self.
For those souls that choose life changing realities resulting from accidents, like becoming paralysed, permanently disfigured or disabled, they have the power and strength to get through it and overcome the initial feelings of heartbreak that their life will never be the same. The sense of loss may seem insurmountable and the person may experience extensive grief, regret, guilt and depression, but their path is mapped out for a far more profound and empowering existence.
Profound growth is possible for not only the person who the accident happened to; the lives of everyone around that person are also touched. Partners, family members and friends take on different roles and because our lives are all interconnected, the ripple effect extends to community with fundraisers, benefit dinners and an outpouring of love.
Self-knowledge is the gateway to your inner peace. It leads to a better understanding of your emotions and behaviours, what causes them and what their purpose is for your own personal growth.
With this knowledge and understanding you can recognise the lessons being presented and empower yourself to overcome life’s emotional challenges.
Here’s a short list of common emotions and behaviours and what they are teaching you.
Fear – shows a negative outlook towards something you don’t understand or an uncertainty towards the unknown. Fear is teaching you courage and mental strength.
Bitterness – shows where you are holding onto hurt and where you need to heal. It demonstrates that you are holding judgements on others for the injustice you’ve experienced. Bitterness is teaching you forgiveness.
Resentment – shows an inability to move on from a painful event or wrongdoing and demonstrates you are living in the past. Resentment is teaching you to let go and be present by living in the here and now.
Guilt – shows that you are living your life based on the expectations of what others think you should do and how you should act. Guilt is teaching you to live by your own beliefs and principles.
Substance addiction is one of the most common of life challenges. It is an act of numbing the pain and escaping raw emotions due to the fear of confronting the real problems and issues that are being presented. It can be soul destroying, but also soul defining. From the concept of pre-birth planning, a search for the deeper purpose of the experience can ease the pain of those directly and indirectly affected.
Learning that life challenges are planned enables you to adopt a completely new perspective, shedding negative emotions such as regret, remorse and sadness. Over time our souls experience it all; perpetrator, victim, poverty, wealth, good health, alcoholism, drug addiction, everything! (For this reason alone we could all do with being less judgmental and more compassionate.)
It’s hard to imagine why souls would plan to reincarnate either as an addict, a loving parent of an addict or even as a child born to a parent with a drug addiction. However, this is a conscious choice for whatever the soul needs to learn this time around for their desired growth.
There is someone special for each of us, in fact for most there is more than just one special soulmate. Soulmates are destined to meet and while your head may not recognise them, your heart will. Soul recognition comes in many forms, it can be subtle and slow to form or it can be palpably intense at first glance.
Some people experience immediate soul recognition, where both souls recognise each other. They experience a sudden feeling of familiarity even if they have not met before. The energy between them is undeniable and they have an instant attraction towards each other. They intuitively know each other and there is a level of safety and trust not usually experienced during initial encounters.
Soul recognition can come from one person who feels the connection and sees a potential future together while the other person does not, as their decisions are made based on the mind and all of its fears and prejudices. In these cases it is common for one person to be left heartbroken while the other person moves on unawakened and just not ready.
While watching the extraordinary story about the transgender mother and son on 60 Minutes last night my first thought was how incredibly lucky they are to have each other and to have that essential understanding of what the other is going through. My second thought was they must have a significant soul connection to agree, in pre-birth planning, to their relationship and the life challenges they were to face.
It’s a bold choice to agree to enter a new life in a body that you are not comfortable in and makes you feel depressed, a situation that lends itself to stress, anxiety, bullying and suicidal thoughts. Although society is making progress towards the acceptance of the many ways in which people express their sexuality, whether it be transgender, gay, lesbian, bi-sexual or whatever, those who identify as something other than heterosexual are still being mistreated. Why do souls plan lives in which they will be different from the majority with such difficult personal challenges? What are the life lessons, the soul’s purpose?