Relationship issues are a common thread amongst all of us, which is not surprising as all of our lives are comprised of social and intimate interaction with others. What is also common amongst us is the desire to find love and be loved. The energetic pull between soulmates may be gentle or quite forceful, depending on the situation; however, soulmates are never truly apart from each other.
Even if they are miles apart geographically, their hearts and souls are forever bound. Soulmate relationships frequently arise during Past Life Regression Therapy and I wanted to share a couple of more stories with you.
I’ll begin with the story of a client I will call Ava. Ava had trouble making sense of a relationship that wasn’t evolving into something more serious, yet she knew the connection and chemistry she had with this man, who I will call Thomas, was deep and she knew they both loved each other dearly.
During a past life regression she discovered that she was once married to Thomas. They lived in America, in Atlanta, during the 19th century and during this time Ava’s life had ended suddenly. It appeared there was unfinished business between them and they were reunited in this life, but Thomas was detached and uncommitted. Once Ava became aware of the deep love that spanned life times with this man and the origin of her feelings for him, she was able to honour herself by making better choices in her current situation. Instead of going on with his lack of commitment, for her own highest good she called an end to their casual fling, choosing self-respect over being only an option for him.
Through his extensive work, Dr Michael Newton has identified three different groups of soulmates. These include ‘Affiliated Souls’, who are generally acquaintances associated with us to teach us a karmic lesson, ‘Companion Soulmates’ who are often our siblings, our children or good friends who are actively taking part in our physical life and ‘Primary Soulmates’ who are most often a deeply bonded partner or lover. Primary soulmates are two people who are connected eternally by their love for one another and come around together, life after life, with lessons for each other that teach personal growth and spiritual evolution.
Destiny dictates when soulmates will meet, but one thing is for sure… we will meet them. What happens after two soulmates meet is no longer fateful; it becomes a matter of choice and one of the most important moments in our lives. Unfortunately, many people don’t recognise this until after the choice has been made. The right choice is an opportunity realised and can bring two hearts and two souls together in a union of profound happiness. However, there are many reasons soulmates may not remain together; the important karmic lessons in their reunion may have been learnt and it’s time to go their own way or their greatest life’s lessons are better learnt on separate paths, however one thing is for sure, without a greater understanding parting from a soulmate can result in long term suffering and heartache.
A client, who I will call Anna, had an ex-boyfriend who she loved more than she had loved anyone else. Anna was very young when they fell in love and after they split up she went on her journey of self-discovery and essentially growing into her own while he moved on, married someone else and had a family of his own. This led to years of loneliness and suffering and many failed relationships, but it also resulted in great personal growth and inner strength along with a determination to create her own happiness and success. Anna’s love for this man and curiosity about the deep connection she felt towards him never disappeared and she came to see me to gain insight into her continual feelings towards him. During a past life regression she discovered they were in fact married in a previous life, blissfully happy with a family of their own. This knowledge of having loved him for many life times gave her the understanding that this life was not the end, regardless of whether they would be together again or not. The belief in this connection enabled her to forge ahead with her own life and not dwell in the past where thoughts of being with him could ignite heartache and pain.
1. Stop comparing yourself to others – Everybody has their struggles and their own personal soul contract to live out. Everybody has karmic matter to serve – heartache, heartbreak, challenges and choices. Comparing yourself to others is a fast track to unhappiness, depression and self-defeating behaviours.
No matter how easy some people seem to have it, no matter how successful, powerful, wealthy or fabulous someone appears on the outside, they still experience life’s suffering. We all suffer to some degree or another; this is what makes us ALL equal.
Find the way to self-acceptance, only involve yourself in quality relationships and find a meaningful life’s purpose and go for it.
Do not buy into people’s highlight reels on social media. It is highly likely that the person you are unfavourably comparing yourself to can’t even live up to the idealised image you have created of them in your own mind.
I find every past life regression extremely fascinating, but I had an especially interesting story unfold recently with a client I’ll call Marie. Marie found herself as a young boy, called Marcel, in a village in France during the Middle Ages. She described her home as a one room hut with sparse straw on the ground and with meagre furnishings, only a table and a couple of stools. Other huts were built at random on the surrounding land and there was a real sense of community with the other villagers.
When a past life is induced we explore the first scene in great detail; where they are, what they see and how they are feeling, to bring the client into a focused concentration which also helps to deepen the trance state. The deeper the trance the easier the story unfolds, rolling like a movie.
Marcel had a younger brother and they lived in the hut with their mother and father. Her father farmed the land, but they were very poor and suppressed within the feudal social system of the time. They had very little personal freedom and almost no human rights.
Marie explored the relationship she had with her mother, who she identified as her mother in this life time as well. They had a loving relationship despite the hardship and were very close.
The significant and tragic events that were recalled during this life as Marcel included the death of his little brother due to an outbreak of disease, having to flee their home into the woods when death and destruction came to town as well as the death of his father who was killed during this invasion. What stood out was how stoic Marcel’s mother was during these most tragic of times, she showed such little emotion.
The mother would simply say ‘That’s our lot in life.’ and get on with basic and menial tasks. Marcel was distraught and did not receive the comfort and support he needed at these most desperate times.
I recently had a client, I will call her Jo, come to see me concerned about several aspects of her life based around relationships. She presented with stress and anxiety and found it difficult to relax. It took several relaxation techniques to enable her to enter an altered state of consciousness for past life memories to begin to flow.
However, when she started to receive impressions from her subconscious her conscious mind would interrupt by wanting to analyse the information immediately as it ‘didn’t make sense’.
Quite often a suppressed memory is so unpleasant or emotionally disturbing that to bring it into the conscious mind creates a complete emotional overflow. The conscious mind defends itself and creates a resistance as a defence mechanism to protect the mind’s ego.
The search for a trauma is the basis for almost all deep psychological therapy, although it is not always easy to find. This is where Regression Therapy provides such therapeutic value; it is an efficient method to locate the trauma.
Jo maintained her commitment to the therapeutic process and instead of analysing the information that was presenting itself, she simply relayed the images and feelings she was receiving.
This shift in focus allowed further information to emerge and soon enough the tears began to flow as the trauma was realised. The core of her existing problems was revealed from an early childhood memory, from this life, where she was deeply traumatised and abused. She detailed the events that had happened at the hand of her father and the neglect that followed from her mother. The two people that were meant to love and protect her unconditionally had failed to do so and this had an understandably detrimental effect on her relationship with herself and the relationships she attracted from others.
A client’s experience…a success story!
A client I will call Jon presented with no real concerns (that he wanted to discuss anyway), he was simply curious about who and what he was in a past life. He was open minded and ready and willing to allow himself to get into a trance-like state where he could focus solely on what his subconscious was to reveal.
From the initial scene of the past life Jon identified himself as a young man, barefoot and wearing animal skin as clothing. He was a Native South American living in the 1700s.
The significant events that presented throughout this life time started at birth when his mother had died. He was raised, along with his older brother, by his father in an isolated hut at the bottom of a mountain on the fringe of a small village. His father was mostly away hunting and fighting so it was often just him and his brother to fend for themselves.
Further along this life time, his father died during battle and soon after that his brother was ordered to be hung in front of all the villagers for a major wrongdoing, he found himself very much alone. In order to survive he would go far afield hunting and wandering, sometimes in the freezing winter where he would suffer from frostbite because he was too poor to be adequately clothed.