A client, who I will call Amy, presented with anxiety which she had been suffering from for the past 10 years. As she entered a past life she began to describe an old, English castle with vine leaves up the walls. She saw horses and the presence of royalty in what appeared to be of a medieval time. Amy was a young woman and worked as a servant for the King; she was unhappy and wanted to leave. Around her in the kitchen were other servants and cleaners and an older lady who appeared to be her saving grace. Amy described this older lady, who I will call Jean, as gentle, kind, loving and a protector in an environment that could be cold and cruel. As Amy explored her relationship with Jean she suddenly, but all-knowingly, recognised this woman to be her Aunty in this life. This kind and loving woman in her past life was in fact her very dear Aunty who had meant a great deal to her and who had passed away four years earlier.
Other relationships and significant events were explored in this life time including an event where Amy found herself amongst a large, contemptuous crowd where the people were sneering and cheering the men who, dressed as knights in their body armour, rode their horses and raised their jousting sticks as they battled to the death. As she watched this scene unfold she described feeling extremely anxious and sad at the absolute disregard for life.
We have all had unkind words spoken to us and these insults tend to echo in our minds a lot louder than the compliments we have received. Having low self-esteem can foster poor mental health, poor physical health and a lack of social connectedness, which commonly affect significant life outcomes.
Suffering from low self-esteem since childhood or adolescence suggests you are potentially more likely to develop an anxiety disorder, depression or a dependence on alcohol, tobacco or drugs as well as experience poor overall physical health and tougher financial difficulties due to periods of, or long term, unemployment. Poor self-esteem can also result in limited choices, relationship issues and negative life consequences.
Low self-esteem can be caused by abuse, bullying, being unemployed, feeling like you don’t fit in, loneliness, neglect, depression etc. It can be a reflection of how your life is progressing, but it can also be a contributing factor in determining future outcomes, so breaking the cycle and increasing your self-esteem is essential to improving your quality of life.
According to beyondblue, it is estimated that 3 million Australians are living with depression or anxiety. This figure is staggering, but what is even more so is the stigma still attached to depression simply because people do not truly understand it. Here is a list of truths about this common illness:
1. Depression is as real as heart disease or a broken leg. It must be treated with due care as the harsh reality is that it can lead to suicide.
2. It is not something you can just ‘snap out of’, just like you can’t snap out of heart disease, diabetes or any other illness. You cannot just think happy thoughts to overcome depression.
3. Suffering from depression is much different than simply feeling sad.
4. Depression not only affects your mood, but also your energy levels, motivation, feelings of self-worth and relationships. It can be an emotional rollercoaster with feelings of irritability, intolerance, stress, guilt, anxiety etc.
5. Depression is not obvious like a broken leg in a cast. Somebody suffering from depression may still be able to function well at work or study and put on a happy face.
6. Although someone with depression may be able to continue functioning at work behind a smile, simple tasks become difficult. Such tasks like getting out of bed, cleaning the house, checking the letterbox etc.
7. Suffering from depression can make you feel very alone despite knowing there are so many others suffering from the same illness. If you know someone suffering from depression offer your support.
8. Depression does not discriminate. It can affect younger people and adults of every age group and gender.
9. There is no shame in having depression or taking anti-depressants.
10. Suffering from depression is not, by any means, a weakness in a person’s character.
I suffered from depression in my twenties and again at around forty, following the birth of my second child. The first time I was prescribed anti-depressants, but due to the side effects and a chance meeting with an amazing woman, I went off the medication and embarked on a life changing, spiritual journey that led to me overcoming personal challenges and hurdles, letting go of people and problems from as early as childhood as well as profound healing from life times of baggage through Past Life Regression Therapy (PLR). It was cleansing and liberating.
PLR helped me along my personal healing journey and gave me the tools to overcome depression as well as life’s challenges and it can for you too. However, if you suffer from acute depression, a serious medical condition known as major depressive disorder, please seek immediate help and support from your GP or services such as beyondblue (Ph: 1300 22 46 36; beyondblue.org.au) or Lifelife (ph: 13 11 44; lifeline.org.au). Remember, it is not a sign of weakness to seek help, quite the opposite in fact.
Live your best life,
Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to recognise and regulate your emotions to relieve stress and overcome challenges. It is also the ability to communicate effectively with others to resolve conflict and to make more informed decisions. We have all had moments where our emotions have caused unhealthy and inappropriate reactions when we have been overwhelmed with stress, hurt or anger and these are lessons to be learnt from, not moments to regret.
Building emotional intelligence starts with self-awareness. When you are aware of how your emotions affect your thoughts, behaviours and relationships you can start to take measures to control your impulsive feelings and reactions to stress and start to navigate the complexities required to manage conflict and maintain healthy relationships with loved ones, in the workplace and within society.
Adapt to taking a moment to think and observe your current emotion before you react. This pause can be the one thing that enables you to think rationally before behaving irrationally. Uncontrollable emotions and behaviours affect your personal and social relationships, leaving you feeling lonely and isolated, and they also affect your mental health. If you do not manage your stress and overpowering emotions you will be more vulnerable to anxiety and depression, have high blood pressure and a low immune system.