1. Stop comparing yourself to others – Everybody has their struggles and their own personal soul contract to live out. Everybody has karmic matter to serve – heartache, heartbreak, challenges and choices. Comparing yourself to others is a fast track to unhappiness, depression and self-defeating behaviours. No matter how easy some people seem to have it, no matter how successful, powerful, wealthy or fabulous someone appears on the outside, they still experience life’s suffering. We all suffer to some degree or another; this is what makes us ALL equal. Find the way to self-acceptance, only involve yourself in quality relationships and find a meaningful life’s purpose and go for it. Do not buy into people’s highlight reels on social media. It is highly likely that the person you are unfavourably comparing yourself to can’t even live up to the idealised image you have created of them in your own mind.
2. Forgive those who have wronged you – This is one of life’s hardest lessons. Forgiveness is easy in principle, but much harder to put into action. It can be hard because we don’t want to let the other person ‘off the hook’, but forgiveness is not excusing the other person’s actions. It does not mean you have to tell the other person they are forgiven. Forgiveness does not mean you have to forget about the incident and forgiveness certainly does not mean you have to continue to include that person in your life. By forgiving, you are accepting the situation and are willing to let go of the grief, the judgement, the victim mentality and, most importantly, you are allowing yourself to heal. Forgiveness is not something you do for the other person; it is something you do for you.
I find every past life regression extremely fascinating, but I had an especially interesting story unfold recently with a client I’ll call Marie. Marie found herself as a young boy, called Marcel, in a village in France during the Middle Ages. She described her home as a one room hut with sparse straw on the ground and with meagre furnishings, only a table and a couple of stools. Other huts were built at random on the surrounding land and there was a real sense of community with the other villagers. When a past life is induced we explore the first scene in great detail; where they are, what they see and how they are feeling, to bring the client into a focused concentration which also helps to deepen the trance state. The deeper the trance the easier the story unfolds, rolling like a movie.
Marcel had a younger brother and they lived in the hut with their mother and father. Her father farmed the land, but they were very poor and suppressed within the feudal social system of the time. They had very little personal freedom and almost no human rights. Marie explored the relationship she had with her mother, who she identified as her mother in this life time as well. They had a loving relationship despite the hardship and were very close. The significant and tragic events that were recalled during this life as Marcel included the death of his little brother due to an outbreak of disease, having to flee their home into the woods when death and destruction came to town as well as the death of his father who was killed during this invasion. What stood out was how stoic Marcel’s mother was during these most tragic of times, she showed such little emotion. The mother would simply say ‘That’s our lot in life.’ and get on with basic and menial tasks. Marcel was distraught and did not receive the comfort and support he needed at these most desperate times.
I recently had a client, I will call her Jo, come to see me concerned about several aspects of her life based around relationships. She presented with stress and anxiety and found it difficult to relax. It took several relaxation techniques to enable her to enter an altered state of consciousness for past life memories to begin to flow. However, when she started to receive impressions from her subconscious her conscious mind would interrupt by wanting to analyse the information immediately as it ‘didn’t make sense’.
Quite often a suppressed memory is so unpleasant or emotionally disturbing that to bring it into the conscious mind creates a complete emotional overflow. The conscious mind defends itself and creates a resistance as a defence mechanism to protect the mind’s ego. The search for a trauma is the basis for almost all deep psychological therapy, although it is not always easy to find. This is where Regression Therapy provides such therapeutic value; it is an efficient method to locate the trauma.
Jo maintained her commitment to the therapeutic process and instead of analysing the information that was presenting itself she simply relayed the images and feelings she was receiving. This shift in focus allowed further information to emerge and soon enough the tears began to flow as the trauma was realised. The core of her existing problems was revealed from an early childhood memory, from this life, where she was deeply traumatised and abused. She detailed the events that had happened at the hand of her father and the neglect that followed from her mother. The two people that were meant to love and protect her unconditionally had failed to do so and this had an understandably detrimental effect on her relationship with herself and the relationships she attracted from others.
A client’s experience…a success story!
A client I will call Jon presented with no real concerns (that he wanted to discuss anyway), he was simply curious about who and what he was in a past life. He was open minded and ready and willing to allow himself to get into a trance-like state where he could focus solely on what his subconscious was to reveal. (The ability to relax and maintain a focused concentration is essential for this therapy to be successful.)
From the initial scene of the past life Jon identified himself as a young man, barefoot and wearing animal skin as clothing. He was a Native South American living in the 1700s. The significant events that presented throughout this life time started at birth when his mother had died. He was raised, along with his older brother, by his father in an isolated hut at the bottom of a mountain on the fringe of a small village. His father was mostly away hunting and fighting so it was often just him and his brother to fend for themselves. Further along this life time, his father died during battle and soon after that his brother was ordered to be hung in front of all the villagers for a major wrongdoing, he found himself very much alone. In order to survive he would go far afield hunting and wandering, sometimes in the freezing winter where he would suffer from frostbite because he was too poor to be adequately clothed.