People with a victim mentality often think the world is against them and that they don’t have any control over their lives. They feel sorry for themselves and ultimately live in an emotional state of self-pity and sadness. They blame others for their unhappiness, whether it is their parents or an ex-partner, and take little to no action to change their inner world…but deep down there is a burning desire to make the changes so they can live peacefully and happily. So how do you break free from the victim mentality?
1. Validate yourself.
Seeking attention and validation from others may feel good as they show their care and concern, but it can also be short lived as people get tired of validating someone who is not taking positive action for themselves. Be your own support system; validate yourself with positive self-statements and affirmations. Learn to really love yourself.
2. Take responsibility for your life.
Reclaim your personal power and take control of your life. Blaming others or circumstances for your own unhappiness is only hurting yourself. You cannot change what has happened, but you can change your thoughts and create a different experience for yourself. Not taking action is a safe bet because you are not going to fail, take a risk!
The benefits of Past Life Regression Therapy (PLR) extend far beyond the clearing of current symptoms. Healing can occur on all levels – physical, emotional and spiritual – as the insights and understanding gained from this transformative technique offer great wisdom in regards to how you see yourself and your life. Whether you suffer from symptoms and fears or whether you are just curious, there are many blessings awaiting you when you experience PLR. The benefits and possibilities include:
Relief from current mental and emotional symptoms – symptoms such as stress, anxiety, fear and phobias simply dissolve and you are able to stop them from reoccurring.
Develop conscious control over your body – through experiencing the state of deep relaxation you are more likely to be able to control your breathing, muscle tension, respiratory rate and blood pressure preventing stress, anxiety and even panic attacks.
Clearer thinking – as a result of your symptoms diminishing your worries seem to disappear as well, allowing you to think with a much clearer head space.
Gain a deeper understanding of the challenges in your life – the past is often where the root and cause of our problems lie. Self-observation and self-knowledge leads to self-healing.
Release limiting thoughts and behaviours– the experience is powerfully liberating and enables you to expand your thoughts that result in more positive behaviours.
To change we have to acknowledge that we have the power within us to create problems, but more importantly we have the power to resolve them. Wanting change and working towards it are two different things. Here is a short list of behaviours stopping you from living the life you want and the life you deserve.
Resistance comes in the forms of:
Excuses – excuses are delaying tactics such as ‘I’ll do it later.’, ‘As soon as I get through…[whatever it might be] …’, ‘The time isn’t right.’. If you are really ready for change, the time is NOW. Setting goals to overcome personal problems later, down the track or next year is simply a resistance tactic.
Assumptions – ‘It’s no use me trying, it won’t work.’, ‘No one can help me.’, Assuming things of others is only justifying your own resistance without the proof to support it. Assumptions place limits on your imagination and shut off many possibilities. You stay in your comfort zone without breaking new ground.
Day 2 of Dr Brian Weiss’ seminar on the weekend started with a moment’s silence in the wake of the senseless horror that had just unfolded in Paris. After some discussion he led the hundreds of people in the audience through another group regression.
Following guided relaxation and instruction to enter a past life, I immediately received an image of a woman, who I intuitively knew was me, standing on a rolling green hill, arms stretched wide, holding the hand of the man I had just married. As I focused on the details of the scene, I noticed the large castle behind us and that the uniform my husband was wearing was that of a king from Tudor times. Our love was undeniable and celebrated by the people gathered there. The messages were clear as my subconscious played out the scenes like a movie.
I have no doubt that when someone says ‘There’s always someone worse off’ that it does in fact come from a well-meaning and kind-hearted person whose intentions are to be caring and compassionate. However…
1. Most people are well aware that there are others suffering from worse situations and illnesses and, like myself, would probably choose their own problems over others’ if everybody threw their problems, issues and complaints into a ring.
2. It is not helpful! Those five simple words trivialise what the person is going through, as if their current situation is actually not important or difficult to manage. Whatever someone is experiencing, whether it be big or small, is important.
In psychology there are five stages of grief: 1. Denial, 2. Anger, 3. Bargaining, 4. Depression & 5. Acceptance. In spiritual work and Past Life Regression Therapy there is a sixth stage, Reconnection.
Contact with loved ones that have passed over is quite common. Visits from the deceased would be even more apparent if people weren’t so afraid, even though they long for contact, and if this phenomena wasn’t so taboo. Generally, our Western belief system denies the possibility of connecting with the dead so most people miss out on the comfort and reassurance their loved ones are trying to offer.
I have had numerous connections with spirit and will share some of my experiences. Previously, I haven’t spoken much about my contact with those that have passed over because of the way others’ attitudes and beliefs result in resistant behaviours, but if you are interested continue reading.